How can I help my white friend understand his dating preferences are racist?

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/jun/09/how-can-i-help-my-white-friend-understand-his-dating-preferences-are-racist?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other

I’m doing this on a mobile phone with shitty reception, hence the formatting.

The absurd letter – likely complete fiction – sums up identity politics. We’ve seen this ‘your preferences are transphobic’ a fair bit lately. Now they are racist.

If this guy specified only black women as a preference, they would accuse him of fetishising black women, so the game is rigged.

My question would be, what business is it of the letter writer anyway? And what business has she going to an agony aunt over someone else’s dating preferences when she should be minding your own business.

Unless it’s all fiction, which is my bet.

18 Comments

  1. I thought the current thinking was that black people need to be protected from the Evil Whites™ by safe spaces etc? A sort of reverse apartheid. Hence that daft play in London that was ‘suggesting’ white people not come to see it. So by that metric white people not dating black people would be doing them a favour…….after all if all whites are racist why would any self respecting black person want to date one?

  2. “If this guy specified only black women as a preference, they would accuse him of fetishising black women, so the game is rigged.”

    It’s a variation on what Eric Raymond dubbed the ”kafkatrap”. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

  3. So… to be a right-thinker you should select a life partner from a pool of people you don’t feel attracted to? Really?

  4. I’ve been called a bigot a few times, and my answer is “thank you. I am a bigot and proud of it”. You should see the look of shock on their faces, they have no comeback.

  5. ANGABAHT! If we white trash aren’t to date black women, where will we get all the coffee-coloured actors to populate those wonderfully typical families in advertisements?

  6. Why would anyone one want to shag a black woman?

    There’s a reason black men prefer white girls.

  7. Well, I’m not a racist, I married a left-handed, red headed Yorkshire lass.

    It wasn’t easy at first, my parents insisted that she use the servant’s entrance.

  8. “my parents insisted that she use the servant’s entrance.”

    Blimey. Was that painful? ;-P

  9. Politics has no business intruding in matters of the heart and loins. The writer of such arrantly racist trash should be told;

    “I date who I fancy. Now p1ss off and get back to your knitting.” We can all do without ‘friends’ like that.

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